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PSA

Because of the bs going down on tumblr, if my blog gets deleted for whatever reason or if the site simply implodes on itself and you’re looking for another roleplay space, you’re welcome to contact me on my dreamwidth rp blog at this url (which I’m not going to link because I don’t want to trigger the tumblr bots):

unspeakablyevil.dreamwidth.org

You can hit Reply on the top post and leave a message as anonymous without creating an account. Just be sure to let me know who you are and your blog name. If you want to give rping on dreamwidth a try or want more options, you can create an account there for free. Only registered accounts can use the private message function tho. It’s just how the site is set up.

citizenkaneisabadmovie:

biprivileged:

me at 14: lmfaoooo all those “dont trust strangers on the internet” psa’s are sooooooo laaaaaame. like! i love talking to so many friends around the world about anime!!! i love rping!!!!!!!!!

me at 20: theres a deep and insidious culture within rp communities where the majority of folks who joined them as young teens were preyed on and abused by much older adults and i wish i had more guidance on how to avoid these situations as a child.

can i just

PSA for teens:

  • the people in your rp group are most likely older than you are. make sure that it is an established thing that you know their ages, or at least whether or not theyre 18+, AND that you’re a minor.
  • you do not have to give away any personal information that you don’t want to. the people you rp with might start to give out their names, where they live, and other personal details as you all get to know each other. if you’re pressured to giving out any personal info, you might want to reconsider your trust in them.
  • if it’s something impersonal like omegle where you’ll probably never talk to the other person again, be wary. you don’t know if that other person is 16 or 30. at some point probably ask out of character about their age, or just straight up say you’re a minor and see if they’re cool with it.
  • you do not have to rp sex scenes. especially with older people, and no matter what your IRL experience. i was pressured into smut rp when i was 15, with a person who was at least 21. i’d never even had my first kiss before at that point. don’t do it.
  • it’s okay to say no to scene ideas. no matter what they are, if you don’t want to do them then you don’t have to.
  • make sure that the people you rp with censor or tag explicit content. if they don’t, or if they make fun of you when you ask, that’s probably a big red flag.

PSA for adults:

  • censor your shit. everything from gore/violence to smut– if it would put the rating of a movie up to at least a PG-13, tag it. 
  • if you don’t want to rp with kids, find a group that’s 18+. there’s a bunch out there.
  • if you DO rp with kids, remember that they are just teenagers. 17 year olds now were born in the year 2000. 16 year olds are still in high school. they don’t have the life experiences you do, and you need to take that into account.
  • do not make fun of people who don’t want to do a scene. don’t pressure people, and take care with how you prompt someone who’s a minor. 
  • don’t rp sex scenes with minors. like. yall
  • if you see another adult pressuring a minor into doing smth, or if they’re just interacting with a minor in any weird way, privately message them and remind them. i was doing a smut scene with someone my age, and another rp partner seven years older than me was lurking in our private chatroom to watch it. nobody else said anything. don’t let that shit be normal.

i can’t think of more tips but tldr: communicate!!!!! keep each other safe!!!! god

PSA for EVERYONE

It’s not all about adults preying on kids. Adults can pressure other adults into doing things they don’t want to do. I was over 18 when I started RPing and was pushed into ships and playing smut that I didn’t want to play but was too nervous to say ‘No’ because I didn’t want to upset anyone. Likewise, kids can pressure other kids into doing things they don’t want to do, too. Just like in Real Life.

Rule of thumb: if ANYONE is pressuring you to do something you don’t feel comfortable with, hit the X button and never talk to them again. If I’d only had the balls to do that when I first starting RPing, I would have saved myself a lot of trouble.

Also, if you’re under 18, DO NOT PRETEND YOU ARE 18+ IN ORDER TO PLAY SMUT WITH AN ADULT. This hasn’t happened to me personally but it does happen. Please respect people and stay in your lanes. If an RPer’s rules state they don’t play with kids, RESPECT THEIR RULES.

Sorry I haven’t been around lately. I think I really just needed a break. 

Having said that, please don’t assume my negligence is also my character’s. Just because I haven’t been around or haven’t been able to be involved in a plot does not mean my character is ignoring yours or doesn’t care about them. 

I have stated this in my rules and I will state it again: if you want my character involved in a plot, you MUST contact me OOC. Otherwise, my character has no reason to know what yours is up to. He’s not a mind-reader nor is he watching your character’s every move. While I’m on the subject, I would also like to reiterate that Aku is an EXTREMELY POWERFUL character whose presence will change the outcome of a plot dramatically should he ever be involved. However, I will NOT godmode him into anyone’s plot without express permission from the players involved.

I’m not mad at anyone. I just want to be clear that I adhere strictly to the divide between IC and OOC and I don’t want me actions or lack thereof to be conflated with my character’s IC behavior. Thank you for reading.

A Message I Really Think Needs to be Heard

dear-indies:

I want to take a minute to talk about a serious issue in the RPing community.  It’s an issue that many I don’t think even realize exists. Abusive online relationships. They do happen in the rping community and there are several signs to show when someone might be one you want to look out for. It is a personal issue close to my heart as I know several people who have dealt with it, myself included.

So to try to help those in the future and to keep people wary of those types of people I have made a list of warning signs that you may see in those people who often turn out to be abusive.

First thing is first, not all abuse is physical. So that doesn’t mean that abuse can’t happen in an online setting. There is also emotional abuse and it can be just as damaging to an individual. It is often a form of cyberbullying and it is something that I think needs to be addressed.

So I have compiled a list of warning signs, things that these people often do that you should look out for.

          1.      Telling you that you can only RP with them, or only with their character. Or generally telling you not to RP with someone.

This would be a sign of them being too possessive. Not willing to let you do what you want with your account. Generally RPing is supposed to be fun and about what you want. If you want to have only one of each character or only a few RP partners, that is up to you. But you should never let someone tell you who to RP with or who you can’t RP with. It is not up to them and don’t let them think it is.

          2.      Getting mad or upset with you for not answering them right away or getting upset that you are replying to others and not them.

It’s your character and your account. That is something you should always remember. If your character wants to focus on one or two people. That’s okay. Nobody should make you feel bad for not being able to reply to them at the time for any reason. Whether it is being busy with life or just not feeling up to replying to those threads. Most people will understand and usually don’t pressure you. It’s a bad sign if someone does.

          3.      Being told on a regular basis through messages and in public posts that nobody cares and that everyone in the end always leaves or something along those lines

It is often a sign of someone trying to guilt people into staying or doing things with them. Often times it doesn’t matter if that person receives lots of love or has a lot of threads. They will still make it known that they are feeling upset and that nobody cares. They want people to feel guilty if they think about leaving and it is usually a bad sign. Though some people may make a post like that every once in a while. If you are seeing it often or being constantly reminded personally then be cautious. It is a tactic to guilt people into staying.

          4.      Being threatened or told that if you leave or don’t/do something that they will delete, harm themselves, or something similar.

Another tactic to guilt you into staying. They want you to think that you leaving or doing something they don’t like will harm them, sometimes in physical ways and it is a way to manipulate you into doing what they want. Most of the time they are not being serious and it is a sign that they themselves need help.  Help that you will not be able to provide to them no matter how much you may want to.

          5.      Telling you that you are not any good or that you stopped being good after doing something they told you not to.

They want you to think that you are not good enough to find other RP partners. Bringing you down and making you feel miserable because they are is a tactic often used by these types of people. If you don’t think you are any good then you won’t go seeking other partners for fear that they will think that as well. This is an especially damaging tactic and can cause you to feel worthless and unwanted even after a person is gone.

          6.      Getting yelled at, being attacked, or them being mean for what appears to be no real reason, then a while later apologizing. This will likely happen over and over again.

Most of the time there might not be a real reason for it. Something as simple as you talking to someone they don’t like or you not sending them enough memes or replying. They end up being mean and outright yelling at times. Then they apologize and you might think that you should give them another chance, maybe they changed, and maybe it won’t happen again. But it usually does. Many times and if it continuously happens, there is a point where you need to ask yourself is it really worth it. Because in the end, it is not anything you have done wrong and you don’t need to let yourself be attacked just because they apologize after. One of the biggest signs of abuse.

          7.      Getting annoyed with you for RPing the way you do. (whether it is because you RP with a lot of people or only a few)

If they get mad at you for you RPing how you want to, it is usually a good sign that you should steer clear of them. People like this will try to give you the idea that you are wrong and that you shouldn’t do that. In the end you RP how you want and there is no wrong way to do it. Whether you want to stick to only a few threads or you want 200 and like plotting for more. It’s about what you like. And those that enjoy RPing with you, will be patient and stick with you no matter how you want to do it.

          8.      Being attacked or called names for RPing with other people, and/or attacking your RP partners for RPing with you.

If someone outright attacks you are starts calling you names simply because you RP with others. That is a clear sign that you should avoid that person. This is supposed to be fun and there is no need to be rude to you or others for how you RP. It is especially a red flag if they also attack your RP partners. That means they are being far too possessive and avoiding and blocking would probably be the best idea in that instance.

          9.      (An, its gone too far sign) They make you overly anxious every time you see them or feeling as if you are going to panic if they message you.

If it has gotten so bad that their very presence makes you a big ball of stress or have an anxiety attack, dropping them would be the best option. Nobody should make you feel stressed and anxious when on. If the idea of them messaging you, because you are afraid of what it might say, gives you extreme anxiety. That is the time to drop, block, and do not interact or look for them in any way. It is not okay for someone to cause this.

In general, RPing is supposed to be about fun, you enjoying RPing as your muse and doing what you like to do. It is never going to be okay for others to make you think you are doing it wrong. In the end, there is no wrong way to RP. So don’t let anyone make you think that there is. If someone doesn’t like the way you RP then it is best for them to find someone else. And you should never feel bad if you think you need to drop a RP partner because they are causing you anxiety or anything of the sort. If a RP partner is causing you stress, avoid them. Stress is bad enough in real life, there is no need for people to add to it in RP.

The people that do this, honestly, might not even realize they are being abusive to someone. Maybe they have had their own issues in life and it has molded them into the way they are, but in the end, they need help, but not from you. And there is no way you are going to be able to help them. In the end, they need to realize it themselves and seek help.

These kinds of situations can have long lasting effects on the person who has dealt with it, lingering anxiety or depression, being self-conscious about everything they do, feeling they are not good enough, wanting to avoid their RP account. This is not okay and for those who suffer these issues, you are not alone. Sometimes talking about it can help, whether with a fellow RP partner you trust, or seeking out a friend in real life. Don’t keep it to yourself, because it can make the feelings worse. And even if there are those abusive RP partners out there, there are also those that are very caring and will be willing to listen.

So keep the warning signs in mind and don’t let someone treat you like this. It’s about fun not about them. 

psa

If we’re ever doing an rp and you’re having trouble replying to my response or my starter, please let me know! I have no problem fixing something to make it easier to respond to (even if the rp/starter is weeks or months old.)

Also, if you have a specific idea you’d like to rp with my character, feel free to tell me about it. I know I’ve had specific ideas I wanted to play with people but was too shy to bring it up (and later regretted it.)